To Find Love
Oct. 20th, 2011 01:39 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
cedar_groveFrom The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have.
“Our ability to find something to love, and to love again for the first time, depends greatly on how we resolve and integrate where we’ve been before.
I'm going completely 'out there' with this entry, and for that I make no apologies.
While a believe in reincarnation is not necessarily a prerequisite requirement for following a Wiccan faith, many Wiccan's – me included – and other Pagans as well, believe strongly in reincarnation, and along with that goes hand in hand the notion that, in the next life we have we might come across those that we have loved before, perhaps in a different life-role in respect of our relationships, perhaps not at all. I believe this because I have experienced that sense of 'have I met you somewhere before' with many people whom I know with a certainty I have never met, and it's not just that they remind me of someone I do know. It was always that tummy churning sense of dislocation that ends with the 'I know you' revelation. But the question is – is it always a good idea to act on that sense of knowing, especially when it has been in a 'love' sense of relationship.
There's a line in one form of the Wiccan Handfasting ritual that says: …and you shall meet, and know, and remember, and love again… I think that bears a great sense of responsibility – and honestly, not sure it's necessarily right even for the most evolved of souls.
The idea of being linked with others you have loved before (even in terms of platonic, filial or parental) love is explored in several media, including books and television. Perhaps the most familiar of those to me at least, is in Star Trek, where in DS9 Dax is faced, more than once with circumventing or just plain breaking the Trill interdiction of re-association. (There's the famous 'lesbian' kiss for Jadzia, and of course Ezri hooks up albeit briefly, with Worf). There's also the whole backstory in Katherine Kerr's Deverry series: (starts with this one). The one thing both of these things have in common is that they highlight the problems faced in such associations.
I have been born again and again
and each time, I have found something
to love.
--Gordon Parks
“Our ability to find something to love, and to love again for the first time, depends greatly on how we resolve and integrate where we’ve been before.
I'm going completely 'out there' with this entry, and for that I make no apologies.
While a believe in reincarnation is not necessarily a prerequisite requirement for following a Wiccan faith, many Wiccan's – me included – and other Pagans as well, believe strongly in reincarnation, and along with that goes hand in hand the notion that, in the next life we have we might come across those that we have loved before, perhaps in a different life-role in respect of our relationships, perhaps not at all. I believe this because I have experienced that sense of 'have I met you somewhere before' with many people whom I know with a certainty I have never met, and it's not just that they remind me of someone I do know. It was always that tummy churning sense of dislocation that ends with the 'I know you' revelation. But the question is – is it always a good idea to act on that sense of knowing, especially when it has been in a 'love' sense of relationship.
There's a line in one form of the Wiccan Handfasting ritual that says: …and you shall meet, and know, and remember, and love again… I think that bears a great sense of responsibility – and honestly, not sure it's necessarily right even for the most evolved of souls.
The idea of being linked with others you have loved before (even in terms of platonic, filial or parental) love is explored in several media, including books and television. Perhaps the most familiar of those to me at least, is in Star Trek, where in DS9 Dax is faced, more than once with circumventing or just plain breaking the Trill interdiction of re-association. (There's the famous 'lesbian' kiss for Jadzia, and of course Ezri hooks up albeit briefly, with Worf). There's also the whole backstory in Katherine Kerr's Deverry series: (starts with this one). The one thing both of these things have in common is that they highlight the problems faced in such associations.
