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Strengths and Shortcomings
Jul. 6th, 2011 08:43 amFrom The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have.
I am not saying that change is not possible, but more deeply, that true change, the kind that is self-initiated and lasting, has more chance of happening in a relationship that doesn't hide its shortcomings.
Do we have shortcoming? Of course we do, because we have a very real and very honest relationship. Do our shortcomings matter? Of course they don't – does that surprise you? Our shortcomings don't matter because we're able to talk, and tell each other what's going on, how we feel and we can both accept what's being said with the same honestly and love in which it's meant. We may have hiccups. We may act out of our frustrations sometimes, but we recognise this too, and once we've both calmed down, and the talking can begin again we find our even keel, hoist the sails one more, and travel onward.
The truth of it all is: I couldn't be without my guy.
Mirrani is my solid ground, my solace and my love. She is the biggest inspiration in my life – the one that guides and guards me, sometimes even from myself, and I don't think I've ever been able to say that about anyone else I know now or have ever known. Thought of her are never far from my mind and it's to her I go when I need help, and to whom I open my arms – my heart and soul – to give the same succour and protection.
We balance each other. Masculine and feminine – fixed and mutable… we support each other, like the air and fire that we are by our birth…not that I put too much store in that mind you… I just found it interesting when I was thinking about it the other day. Astrology aside, we really do balance each other… our strengths and weaknesses are a compliment to each other. It's as it should be in any deep relationship like ours.
She inspires me in other ways too, *chuckles* which goes back to the whole copycat issue I was talking about the other day… and most recently has helped to rekindle my creative inspiration with the lessons/assignments she was giving me. That inspiration and drive is still there, I've just been a little too tired to actually sit down and write for any considerable length of time in the last couple of weeks… but I have been turning Life After over in my head during that time… letting the ideas play around in my head. Days are coming soon when I hope I'll be able to sit down and actually do something with those ideas.
I only hope that I can find a better way to be the same inspiration for her as she is for me. I know she has said that we share interests and thing – a fair exchange, I believe was the way she expressed it – but I still think she does a far better job of it than I do.
We need to stay current with each other.
--Angeles Arrien
I am not saying that change is not possible, but more deeply, that true change, the kind that is self-initiated and lasting, has more chance of happening in a relationship that doesn't hide its shortcomings.
Do we have shortcoming? Of course we do, because we have a very real and very honest relationship. Do our shortcomings matter? Of course they don't – does that surprise you? Our shortcomings don't matter because we're able to talk, and tell each other what's going on, how we feel and we can both accept what's being said with the same honestly and love in which it's meant. We may have hiccups. We may act out of our frustrations sometimes, but we recognise this too, and once we've both calmed down, and the talking can begin again we find our even keel, hoist the sails one more, and travel onward.
The truth of it all is: I couldn't be without my guy.
Mirrani is my solid ground, my solace and my love. She is the biggest inspiration in my life – the one that guides and guards me, sometimes even from myself, and I don't think I've ever been able to say that about anyone else I know now or have ever known. Thought of her are never far from my mind and it's to her I go when I need help, and to whom I open my arms – my heart and soul – to give the same succour and protection.
We balance each other. Masculine and feminine – fixed and mutable… we support each other, like the air and fire that we are by our birth…not that I put too much store in that mind you… I just found it interesting when I was thinking about it the other day. Astrology aside, we really do balance each other… our strengths and weaknesses are a compliment to each other. It's as it should be in any deep relationship like ours.
She inspires me in other ways too, *chuckles* which goes back to the whole copycat issue I was talking about the other day… and most recently has helped to rekindle my creative inspiration with the lessons/assignments she was giving me. That inspiration and drive is still there, I've just been a little too tired to actually sit down and write for any considerable length of time in the last couple of weeks… but I have been turning Life After over in my head during that time… letting the ideas play around in my head. Days are coming soon when I hope I'll be able to sit down and actually do something with those ideas.
I only hope that I can find a better way to be the same inspiration for her as she is for me. I know she has said that we share interests and thing – a fair exchange, I believe was the way she expressed it – but I still think she does a far better job of it than I do.
