Nose No Better For the Face
Sep. 22nd, 2011 08:04 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
cedar_groveFrom The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have.
Asking for help, whether we get it or not, breaks the hardness that builds in the world.
It's something that, being Little Miss Independent, I sometimes find hard to do. I think it depends on what kind of help it is that I need as to whether I will ask for it without a second thought, or will grudgingly ask for help.
I'm better than I used to be, but not as good as I should be.
For example, if it's something I can't reach, and there's a chair nearby, I won't ask for help, but I'll stand on the chair and get whatever it is myself. That's a shame because, as I think I mentioned elsewhere, asking your man to reach you something down from a high self is something I actually find very romantic... something that softens the hardness of my world.
If I'm sick, I'll just push on and push on... rather than ask for help. I don't want to seem weak. Often gets me into a lot more trouble than not, because I won't go to a doctor unless I'm at death's door – and I'm usually grumpy because I don't feel well. I don't mention it because I've gotten a complex by being told that I get sick all the time...? And then I get told off for being grumpy...
If it's something I think I should be able to do without help and I still can't, I still keep on trying, nipping at it like a Rottweiler and getting more and more frustrated when I can't do it, and still, I won't ask for help. It's stupid I know, but that's my bloody minded independence for you!
Perhaps the shortest and most powerful prayer
in human language is help.
--Father Thomas Keating
Asking for help, whether we get it or not, breaks the hardness that builds in the world.
It's something that, being Little Miss Independent, I sometimes find hard to do. I think it depends on what kind of help it is that I need as to whether I will ask for it without a second thought, or will grudgingly ask for help.
I'm better than I used to be, but not as good as I should be.
For example, if it's something I can't reach, and there's a chair nearby, I won't ask for help, but I'll stand on the chair and get whatever it is myself. That's a shame because, as I think I mentioned elsewhere, asking your man to reach you something down from a high self is something I actually find very romantic... something that softens the hardness of my world.
If I'm sick, I'll just push on and push on... rather than ask for help. I don't want to seem weak. Often gets me into a lot more trouble than not, because I won't go to a doctor unless I'm at death's door – and I'm usually grumpy because I don't feel well. I don't mention it because I've gotten a complex by being told that I get sick all the time...? And then I get told off for being grumpy...
If it's something I think I should be able to do without help and I still can't, I still keep on trying, nipping at it like a Rottweiler and getting more and more frustrated when I can't do it, and still, I won't ask for help. It's stupid I know, but that's my bloody minded independence for you!
